I have two main thoughts going right now.
One is the idea that to be a good writer you have to be a painstaking lover and chooser of words - I REJECT THIS. The painstaking part. As the only way, at least. I'm glad I figured that out, but man, did my methods and interests plague me as bad for such a long time. I bought Francine Prose's Reading Like a Writer and I just sold it. It's not bad, I just don't want it on my bookshelf. There are other ways to encounter and use words. The main thing, I feel, is that a writer must WORK HARD and LOVE WORDS.
The other is that the concept of women "having it all" is total BS and is as bad a notion (with possibly shady provenance) as "women's sphere". More on this later, and I'm sure I'll say some things that will not earn me points with some people. ;) (Don't care.)